I would love to meet someone who.....

I often hear the singles I work with say….”I Just want to meet someone who…”

I am guessing you say it too.

Are just waiting for that someone to come along?

What is it that you are looking for in that someone?

Do you know how you will know if when you meet him or her they are that person you have been waiting to meet?

So based on my work with singles and married couples I have put together a little list of the things to look out for.

But remember if you are looking for these things in another are you living them too?

Someone who is honest and loyal.

While honesty and loyalty shouldn’t be difficult traits to find, they are the number one trait that most people are looking for and not finding.

Honesty and loyalty are cornerstone traits to the very foundation of any relationship: Trust. Therefore, trust must be earned through displaying these qualities frequently.

I know your saying “Excuse me, hello I am!” Am I right?

How are you displaying it? Do you do what you say you are going to do? What about people around you? If someone is not loyal and honest what do you do? How do you react?

Thing is as well as living it yourself, don’t compromise from expecting anything less from that “Someone”

Someone you’re comfortable being weird with.

Before you say not “ME” let's face it we all have our little weird way of doing things.

And you know what there are some unique quirks and qualities that only your mum may know about, or maybe not. But they are well and truly hidden away from the world in fear of being judged.

I want you to know it’s natural, and there is nothing wrong with it. (as long as it’s not harming anyone)

So that “Someone” that you are searching for should be someone whom you feel completely comfortable expressing your secrets and desires to. That “Someone” should know, and accept, the things that you don’t tell other people in the world.

That “Someone” isn’t going to try to iron out everything that makes you weird and unique, they are going to love each individual weirdness– because that weirdness is what makes you, YOU.

This comfort comes from being able to be open and honest with your partner, and that comfort comes from being able to open up without fear of being judged.

BUT can you do that too, when it comes to your partner?

Someone who loves you even when they don’t like you.

Ok so this is the important one. No one is perfect and we don’t like someone all of the time.

There will be times when you may disagree, you may quarrel, you may hold different viewpoints on the world, you may have arguments about family or how you’re going to raise your future children.

Sometimes, liking someone is even more important than loving them

This is why communication and compromise are so important. This is why choosing to love someone every day is so important. This is why relationships aren’t perfect fairy tales (and also why they fail often these day's), because they take work that isn’t always fun.

But just because you argue or disagree or get frustrated with someone, doesn’t mean you stop loving them.

As the old saying goes you don't throw the baby out with the bath water.

Is that YOU, someone who can be with someone even when you don’t like them?

(Remember if there are red flags and you are in an unhealthy relationship then that’s the time to get help)

Someone who gives you their undivided attention.

Relationships are about communication, and it's not quantity it’s quality of attention.

Someone can be in the same room as you, but their attention is on something else.

Be with Someone who genuinely wants to know how your day was. Someone who listens. Someone who doesn’t need an empty distraction to make it through their time with you. Someone who enjoys being with you in silence just as much as they love exploring the depths of your mind through conversation.

BUT it’s a two-way street is that “someone” YOU?

Someone who appreciates who you truly inside out.

Have you done this - your on that app on your phone and swiped right or left after two seconds of seeing someone’s face and maybe taking the time to read their profile?

What did you base it on?

We want the person who will help us create an image of our happy ever after – all the while overlooking the person who would actually be our teammate in life’s ups and downs.

Yes, be with someone who appreciates your outer beauty, but remember the saying it fads in comparison to your loving, genuine heart. Be with someone who understands that it’s not the photos that are important, but the memories you are creating while taking them.

Be with someone who truly loves and accepts you for who you are today, and admires and support’s you in reaching your goals.

Is that “Someone” Who you would want to meet, to be with, to spend the rest of your life with?

If so BE that “Someone who" Live it, show it, share it.

What is on your list?

Let me know how you get on I would love to hear from you.

Your Coach

 

Wajeeha

 

Ps. If you have heard yourself or someone else say “I would love to meet someone who_________that’s who I would love to meet”? then you need to attend the next Finding Mr or Mrs Right Masterclass which is taking place on 30th September 2017.

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