So which do you think you trust,
FEAR or LOVE?
Fear tells you to hide your true self.
Wall’s up high, knock hard you are not coming in.
You will not hurt me, you will not know me.
Love tells you stand up and be counted. To sparkle bright.
Fear wants perfection.
Love is perfect despite it’s presences.
Fear tells you being right is the way to stay safe.
Love knows safety is an illusion.
Fear argues for your limitations highlighting the perception of your flaws.
Love takes a stand for your greatness, for the smallest to the largest of victories.
Fear wants more, pulling you back like a rubber band.
Love knows there is always enough.
Fear thinks pain is a weakness.
Love sees pain as an opening.
Fear wants guarantees.
Love wouldn’t ask for guarantees.
Fear tells you to protect yourself.
Love tells you to be vulnerable.
Fear wants to know why.
Love wants to know how.
Fear wants to confine.
Love wants to let go.
Fear wants to hold on.
Love wants to surrender.
Fear wants to be wanted.
Love knows it is.
Fear tells you to sacrifice.
Love tells you it’s a gift.
What can you do to move out of fear and into love?
You can begin by smiling at strangers. To start a conversation with someone you have seen across the room.
You can tell people you know that you are looking for love and ask if they know anyone interesting.
You can do the same for someone else.
Love is not going to find you if you are hiding from the world inside your house pretending it does not matter and it won’t happen to you, not right now, maybe later. You're too old, too tall too short, to this to that, you're too fussy, you're to shy, you're too forward...........you're too....
It matters and it can happen to you and if not now when?
As you expand your ability to take a risk or two, fears will take a back seat to love.
Risk being vulnerable.
Risk falling in love.
Risk approaching him or her first.
Risk saying yes even if you are terrified the other person will turn away.
Risk being you when your fears tell you to be anything but.
Risk putting boundaries in place and saying no.
Risk being worth someone’s effort. Risk asking for love.
Risk making the effort. Risk sharing love.
Risk anything that stands between you and your ability to be loving presence you are when fear in not running the show.
Love may be rusty, but don’t let that stop you.
It’s like riding a bike.
Accept the risk.
Get on and start pedalling.
It will all come back, it always does.
It will be worth it.
If you need a helping hand, I am here to help you find love or revive love in your life.
Take my hand and lets begin……
Until next time. Let me know how you are getting on. I would love to hear from you.
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.
A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.
A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master...” ~Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love