The 3 C's you need for lasting Change
My clients often ask me " Wajeeha how do I create change that lasts?"
You have to do new behaviours to change that behaviour you want to change.
Are you still with me?
In order to change a behaviour you need a set of new capacities, capabilities & or beliefs.
If want something you've never had then you've got to do something you've never done before.
No more waiting no more hiding. It's time to do the doing.
But most people get in their own way, they either don’t know they are the ones in their way or can’t get out of their way.
They say the average person has about 60/70 thousand thoughts a day the problem is 90 to 95% of those thoughts are the same thoughts they had yesterday and the day before.
If you want something new you have to stop doing the same old.
the best thing you could do for yourself in this kind of situation is stop saying I wish this would change or I hope this would change because hope comes without a strategy.
I will/I have to - comes with a strategy of DOING
The secret to making this happen really is in neurogenesis and neuroplasticity I talk a lot about this because the goal is to create new brain cells. New connections.
Your brain is plastic, and you can create new connections.
A big part of what intelligence is is making a connection between something you don't know to something that you know and reinforcing it.
The essence of change is NOVELTY.
It is the key!
No matter your age your brain is like a muscle, it grows through use through neurogenesis neuroplasticity.
That's why it's essential if you want to create change you have to try something brand new every single day.
So if you feel inspired to be able to jump start a change I invite you to do this:
Do something new at least three times. Some people will not step outside of their comfort zone as they believe it takes to much energy and effort to try something new.
One: Do something once to get over the fear.
Remember first you create your habits, and then your habits create you.
Two: Do it twice to begin to learn it and you begin to ingrain
Third: Do it again to see if you like it.
Here are three keys to making lasting change.
Consistency is vital whether it takes 21 days or 30 days or 66 days the power comes from repetition remember if you’re persistent you could attain it, but if you’re consistent you get to keep it.
You can’t go to the gym and then all of a sudden you’re just healthy, and you’re fit and strong for the rest of your life.
It’s the strategy you use, how to apply a skill set. You can't just start driving a car you have to learn the skills.
The more you challenge yourself at something the better and more capable you get at doing it.
Through your struggles you develop your strengths. When you do the hard things life gets easier when you just do the easy things in life, life gets harder, if you do the easy stuff, like procrastinate put things off then life gets hard but if you do the difficult then life becomes easier because you're better it's not like life got better you got better.
Finally, consistency capability and challenge what brings all those three things together is having a coach.
A coach gets you to reach your goals; they challenge you because they know that when they push you that you're going to grow stronger you're going to get better and you're going to reach your goals.
Change does not have to be difficult it takes small steps and surrounding yourself with challenge buddies, chair leaders and motivators to help you reach your goal.
Together we can live our life out proudly and boldly.
It's over to you. Give it a go and let me know how you get on.
I would love to hear from you.