Who shaped your philosophies in life?
Perhaps it was your dad, or your mum or another significant adult in your life.
As we grow older our character, our values our beliefs our actions are all formed through our experiences our observations of the people around us, it shaped the view of our world in ways, that as a child, we would not have recognised.
Now, as an adult, have you ever stopped to think about WHY?
Why you think or act the way you do?
It’s those significant rituals or even the little ones like the first thing you do when you wake up. Do you have breakfast in your pj’s or do you get dressed first? To how you like your tea or even how you start your working day.
Interesting stuff, right?
Today I want to share some tips for the men to master life & Love, ladies don’t feel left out you can apply them to.
Who did you learn your communication style from?
Have you ever thought about it?
How has it been serving you?
You can’t go wrong by polishing up your communication and speaking style. It will go a long way, to securing that pay rise, to answer that dreaded interview question “Why should we hire you”?
Now, this tip I am going to give you, don’t shy away from it, give it a go and thank me later. Use your smartphone to your advantage.
Record yourself speaking, and then listen back to the recording. Then practice being, clear, concise and articulate.
My client Adam used this technique to prepare for a presentation, I also encouraged him to read to his children being as animated as he could, he struggled at first, but with a little practice and excitement from his children he soon mastered it.
He learned to articulate the nuances of verbal and non-verbal communication; it literally changed his life.
Not only did he nail his presentations, but his relationship with his children was enhanced.
Master your moves.
Don’t worry; I am not talking about dancing; I am talking about self-defence.
It’s comforting to know gone are the days that you need to protect like a caveman. But for men a sense of confidence and security comes from a basic understanding of self-defence.
For men there is a sense of pride knowing you could defend yourself or those you love if you had to. There are a few benefits of learning some self-defence skills not only are you keeping fit, but you also realize some natural dopamine, serotonin and endorphins all needed to help you feel good and take care of your mental health.
Plus it’s better to be equipped should you need to kick into self-defence mode.
Learn to cook.
Being able to cook not only gives you brownie points with the ladies, but it’s also good for you.
Your microbiome, mood, mental and physical health…are all tied together. Having the ability to prepare healthy and safe foods for yourself and those around you is a life skill that we should all prioritise.
Without proper fuel intake, your body cannot function at its peak. And when your body cannot function at its peak, neither can your mind.
Just like you get better performance from your body when you exercise it well, you also get better performance by exercising your mind.
The best way to keep your mind active is by reading. The more you read the more you have to talk about. There are so many health benefits; it reduces stress and helps with depression.
Reading also helps to improve your memory and empathy.
Plus it’s a great first date question “What book are you reading right now?”
Remember ideas in equal ideas out.
In this day and age of online, we have the potential to meet so many people with little chance of ever meeting them in real life we can easily get caught up in treating people poorly.
It happens in real life too; we are so caught up on the hamster wheel of life that we lose sight of what’s going on around us. We don’t stop to say thank you, or I’m sorry.
Unless you have been deliberately betrayed or hurt by the person you are speaking to, there is no reason to disrespect another human being whose story you do not know.
When you are kind to people, you’ll very often find that they are kind to you in return.
That’s what happened to my client Shakeel he matched with someone on-line he sent her a message and waited patiently for a reply.
A few days passed and nothing, so he sent a polite message saying, “It would have been lovely to connect, your probably busy right now, would have been great to pick your brain, anyways you take care, and I wish you the best of luck in your search”.
He thought that was the end of that until he bumped into her at a networking event and they laughed about him wanting to pick her brain.
You see it could have gone the other way, with him unmatching her or even sending a message along the lines of thanks but no thanks closing the channel of communication.
A little research goes a long way. Learning about the working of the female brain will give you a head start.
And ladies the same goes for you, learning about the male brain will give you a head start too. Both my male and female clients complain about not being understood.
Yet how many of us actually actively take the time and effort to understand.
Take some time out and learn the basics of attraction, relationships, communication, and emotional connection, just like you learnt how to drive and to do your job.
We can never fully understand any individual human being, but we can gain some understanding of the workings of the human brain.
Communicate, ask questions, pay attention.
When you say you're going to call, call, when you say you will be there in 5 minutes be there in 5. (You know what I mean when you say 5 you actually mean 20) When you book to attend an event, attend, don’t bail at a whim.
Honour seems to be a lost concept in this day and age.
Challenge yourself for 21 days to do exactly what you say you’re going to do. Watch how your self-confidence and relationships improve because of it.
If you want the best out of life, expand your world view& values, invest in experiences, not things. Explore different cultures, locations, arts, attitudes, food; it opens parts of your mind; you didn’t know you had.
I’ve spoken to so many women who have experienced the word and want to continue the journey with their husbands, but they don’t want to.
Gentlemen, the world is quite literally passing you by. Don’t miss it.
To many of us run away from spending time on our own with ourselves and seek out fulfilment in a partner.
Remember, the only thing that matters is how you feel about yourself when you’re by yourself. This is the essence of fulfilment.
Becoming absolutely clear on who you are and how you want to grow and evolve will be your guiding light for what decisions you’ll end up making, where you’ll end up living and working, who you’ll end up marrying.
One size does not fit all don’t fall into the worlds mould of societal/cultural norms/trend & expectations.
Choose, consciously, the best life that is suited for you as an individual.
You are you and there will be no one like you in this world. Never let your unique gifts that you can share with the world be covered up by a filter.
It’s over to you, give these tips a go and let me know how you get on, I would love to hear form you.
If you want my help and guidance to create an even happier and more fulfilled life with healthier relationships let's connect and talk.
Ps Join me on 28th November as we talk about all things M. It's free to attend there is a little donation which will go to #Movemebr