I know right, we are in 2019!
I guess I am not the first person that has asked you what your new year’s resolutions are.
Do you have them?
What are they?
I am not going to ask you to list them, but there are a few we all have in common.
Back in the day, I used to set myself these new year resolutions, “Big goals” and like most people decided they would fail before I even began.
The thoughts that held me back
“I don’t have the time.”
“I am not good enough.”
“Who am I kidding” etc. etc.
What I was lacking was Consistency, Persistence and Action.
Consistency, Persistence and taking action are what will get you ahead, I know it might feel like sometimes your moving at a snail's pace, but you will be moving every day, and in a year’s time you will be further ahead than if you put it off to one day or never at all.
With a few tweaks in your approach and attitude, you can achieve your goals.
Here are 3 tips I share with my clients to help them reach their goals.
One of the best things you can do to help you reach your goal is to break it down into small manageable chunks. Map out the small steps you need to take.
- Get a piece of paper and a pencil, and at the top write one thing you want to achieve. Let’s say you want to lose weight or find Mr or Mrs Right.
(35% of people said it was one of their new year resolution along with 4% who said they wanted to find the love of their life)
- Next, write down what you would need to do that. Maybe a gym buddy or accountability partner, a training program. If it’s love sign up and get online, attend events, courses or join an app like Muzmatch https://muzmatch.com/blog/ or https://www.eharmony.co.uk/dating-advice/author/wajeeha-amin#.XED3PVz7TD4
- Set your days and task — create a map to follow. For example when you and your gym buddy can go together, schedule events, the tasks you need to do. Who you will call on for support.
- Now get out and do your one thing/tasks for the day or week. If you follow your map and keep doing what needs to be done one day at a time.
- Smaller tasks are quicker to cross off your list then big and accomplishment come easily.
It can be overwhelming when you look at your to-do list, and when we think we do not have enough time to do it we don’t start.
My client Rebecca wanted to start a business while she was still working full time. She was frustrated that she did not have enough time to work on her business. The reality was that she needed a regular income and giving up the day job was not possible.
We chucked her to do list down into task’s that she could do in 20 minutes on set days after work.
She was amazed at what she achieved in 20 minutes. What she also learnt was that If she didn’t finish the task in the allotted amount of time, she can stop and start the next day again.
Next time you have a goal you want to get moving on, decide to spend 20 minutes on it right away. You’d be surprised how much you can accomplish.
Rebecca went from thinking about setting up a business to a fully developed business plan and a launch date.
When you’re working towards reaching our goals, think of it like driving keep your eye on the car a few car’s ahead of you, rather than thinking of getting to the destination. This way you won’t lose sight of the goal in front of you, and you won’t be to be overwhelmed either.
That map you created when you broke down your goal into smaller tasks is a great way to keep you on track here. As you accomplish each mini-task, celebrate that success by looking at your progress. After that, look at the whole picture with the perspective of “Look how far I’ve come!” to keep up your momentum.
My client who set up her business had quite a few goals which also included getting married. Once she started working on her business in small doses, she freed herself up to be able to get herself out there on her search for Mr Right. Here is the bit I tell you because she had the stamina and persistence she did meet her Mr Right! She set up her business and was able to resign from a job that made her unhappy.
Now, it did not happen in the first year of setting her new year resolutions it happened in the second.
Every one of us has goals we want to achieve. We all want to have that feeling of accomplishment, whether big or small.
Each of us has the ability deep within us to make those goals a reality.— It’s just a matter of lighting the match to fuel the fire in our belly at the right time, knowing how to shield from the storm and stoking the flames occasionally.
Have you set yourself some new year resolutions?
Will you be chunking them down and mapping them out?
Is there anything I can help you with?
Share with me in the comments.
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