We’re all a little insane, sometimes.
Sometimes we need to stop, reset and restart.
The word RESET means – to set again or to begin anew.
If you think about it, most things come with a reset button.
In fact, our body has this amazing ability to reset itself. If you were to break a bone medic’s can reset the bone, and it will heal itself.
Our phones that we hold on to with dear life come with the ability to return to factory settings. If there is an electrical surge at home, the electricity will trip, once reset we can reconnect the electrical connection in our homes.
A reset is a lot like a “start over”. It allows us to get back on track and to begin again in a new way, shedding the old way that was not serving us.
If you are doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result and getting the same result, you know what Albert Einstein called that?
“Insanity is doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting different results.” ~ Albert Einstein
Sometimes we’re all a little insane, especially when it comes to relationships.
Relationships with others and relationships with ourselves.
We have all fallen under this definition of insanity, now and again.
We do it without even realizing it. We repeat patterns of behavior.
Sometimes we know it but are unable to change.
Or we start to see the pattern, and we just don’t know how to change.
We find it too hard to change so we go on with the same old, same old.
When it comes to relationships with others, we experience similar kind of relationships with the same type of people, yet we continue in the relationship or continue searching for those type of people because we think that is the person we want.
I have often heard my clients say things like
“I know what I am looking for”
“I know what to do”
"I don't need confidence" "I just need some confidence"
Take my client *Adam, for instance, he wondered why he would not get past a “First, second or third date” it’s not only Adam who shared this experience, my client, *Sam too, they both said they did not understand why.
In the back of their mind, they knew they were doing the same thing, but hoped that it would give them the result they were looking for, that somehow, this time there would be a different result.
They were equally surprised when things ended in somewhat the same way, and they found themselves back at square one. This time a little more guarded walls higher, more frustrated, more jaded and blaming everyone else.
*Anna, my client, had a dream to set up her own business. Every time the opportunity presented itself for her to take that first step she would talk herself out of it. "It's to hard" she said when we started working together.
*Adam, *Sam and *Anna are not my client's real names, they are made up names.
You will be pleased to know she did hand in her notice and she is now her own boss. She is loving running her own business.
We are all familiar with talking ourselves out of or into things, am I right?
What Adam, Sam and Anna all have in common is that they stopped, set the rest button and discovered the behaviour that they were repeating was not serving them.
They restarted and changed the way they were doing things, and by doing things differently, they got the result they wanted.
Now I am not saying the changes came overnight, the changes came as a result of Adam, Sam and Anna first being honest with themselves and then with hard work and dedication worked towards their goal. Here is the secret formula they applied and used:
Persistence + Consistency = RESULTS
Is it your time to stop, reset and restart?
What emotional baggage are you caring that is holding you back?
What unrealistic expectations are you holding on to?
Many people are trying to run their race weighed down by unmet expectations that they decided, if they were not met, they were going to be unsatisfied and unsuccessful. Or perhaps the expectations that society has set for them.
To your success.
PS. Here is a story of one of my clients. She gave me permission to share her blog post with you.
She quit her job started her own business and got engaged.
'How I turned 30 and quit my job'
If you need a helping hand, please do reach out. I am happy to talk to you and hear to help.